Today the world is heading in a very strange direction.
I remember a few months ago I was sitting down with a male co-worker and I jokingly mentioned that Donald Trump was probably a better choice than Hilary Clinton.
My comment got him started. He began to tell me reasons why I was wrong, reasons why Donald Trump is bad for the job.
I listened closely but none of his points seemed to make any sense.
He said that Trump was a spoiled brat who only got rich because of his father’s money. He said anyone could become a billionaire with that kind of advantage. I wondered how many billionaires does this gentlemen stay in contact with?
He said Donald Trump dodged the draft and that he wants to fuck his own daughter.
“So did Muhammad Ali,” I joked, referring to his comment about the draft.
Ignoring me, he then proceeded to show me a video of Trump on his phone saying this of his daughter: “She has a great figure…if Ivanka were not my daughter, perhaps I’d be dating her.”
I failed to see how this statement equated to him wanting to fuck his daughter…
To me, it seemed like little more than a positive comment a parent would say to get others to notice the beauty or superiority of their child.
Obviously this man hates Trump as many other do, perhaps so much so that he thinks of Hilary Clinton as the lesser of two evils.
So I got an ear beating about how terrible Trump is but I learned a different lesson entirely by what he did next.
He reached out his hand to shake mine and quite strongly bet me $100 that Trump would lose the presidential election and Clinton would win.
I thought Trump would win because I am an avid reader and some of the authors that I regularly follow have their fingers on the pulse. I trust those authors’ judgment so I shook his hand.
I didn’t care about the money. I wanted to observe his character so I made a prediction.
The election came and went and the next time I saw this guy he did exactly what I thought he would.
He looked down at the ground, going to great lengths to avoid eye contact with me until he had passed me in the hallway.
I never heard anything more about that $100 he bet me and I had no desire to remind him. His actions were payment enough.
Disagreeing with someone today can send them into an emotional rage.
Like I said, the world is heading in a strange direction these days.
I am a very critical thinker. When someone tells me something, I very rarely agree right away. I want to research the topic and make up my own mind. But I am human, of course. I do get caught off guard with excellent persuasion from time to time.
Just not that often.
Right now on some College and University campuses, it has become the rule that you address someone by their chosen gender pronoun. Not doing so can be labeled “hate speech.” Seriously, this has already become a law in New York City.
I support free speech and this is a form of language control. Controlling people’s right to speak is approaching thought control. It makes me think of Orwell’s 1984.
Most people in America aren’t even aware of this happening. The majority want simply to earn a living and provide for their themselves without getting tangled in politics.
But like I said, the world is heading in a strange direction these days. Nuclear families have been disappearing since the 70’s. Instead of worrying about a family many people simply worry about themselves. Our current generation is rather selfish.
You don’t have to be a selfish person. You can protect yourself while simultaneously putting out good energy in the world. But you’ve got to have a code. You’ve got to stand by things that matter to you.
The things that matter to me today are the same things that have always mattered to me. Things like Courage and Honor.
I like men that keep their word and seek to better themselves. I like hard workers.
Belief it or not, saying that hard work is one reason that people earn value in life is now considered aggressive (a “micro aggression” to be specific) because it suggests that poor people don’t work hard.
Everyone is playing the part of a victim today. They say “I am oppressed because of my gender or my race or my socio-economic background or Trump or (fill in the blank)!” even though people have it better today (especially in America) than ever before. They say these things while they play with their iPhones.
But that doesn’t mean that You have be that way. You can choose to speak the truth and treat others with respect even though they may not extend you the same courtesy.
When others choose to focus on their “disadvantages” you can focus on things that make you grateful to be alive.
Even if you’re unhappy you can be thankful that at least you have time to change things to the way you want them in your life. Start now.
I’m pleased that I can choose how to live. I mean that I can choose to eat healthy and get plenty of sleep and I can choose to save my money instead of spending it all. I can slowly grow my riches and build my body without hurting anyone and that’s a blessing.
I can work hard at whatever I do and be proud of my work at all times. I never have to feel as though I didn’t give life my all. No regrets, you see?
I’m excited to see a beautiful woman cross my way because I can choose to strike her up in conversation. I can be romantic if I want to. That won’t always be available to me, so for now I relish it.
I can stand up and smile and be happy that I am a man with sunshine on his face. To engage in the act of living day after day is awesome to me.
But these choices are rapidly disappearing.
Many of these freedoms that I have today may be labeled actions of hate or harassment tomorrow and then taken from me by force.
I don’t believe that we are supposed to feel good all the time even though God knows we try so hard it kills us.
We all feel a certain degree of pain and many times that pain and hurt blossoms out into hideous depression and sometimes, I mean somewhat rarely, those sufferings can further breakdown into a desire for death and the action of suicide or even worse…
Its not a path that I recommend if you can help it but the human experience is far too multi-colored and complex the expect it to never happen. Perhaps its better to arm yourself with mental fortitude today and everyday in your life by making a choice.
Make the choice not to be a victim and instead to be thankful.
Make the choice to breathe and cherish that breath.
Choose to take action, to improve your life.
Smile at someone and treat them politely despite their actions. Don’t allow things like elections or sports games affect your frame. Remember, you are the captain of your own ship. You are the master.
Don’t get angry if someone disagrees with you. Listen to their thoughts. Most likely even if they’re wrong they can still shed light on the subject and present it in a way that you never even imagined.
This doesn’t mean that you have to let people walk all over you, either. You can be as strong as an oak tree while still demonstrating patience and understanding.
People pick up on this sort of authenticity. Maybe it just takes a little practice.
There’s something you can aspire to: Be strong. Learn Self defense. Learn Martial Arts. Learn Honor, Respect, Humility, and Discipline. Learn that you can avoid being walked on while still helping to strive for world peace.
You aren’t a fool.
You know that its a nightmare out there in certain places. Hell exists.
You understand that we are far from peace but that doesn’t mean that you can’t at least be peaceful within your space, therefore influencing those around you.
There’s something you can aspire to.